While there is a lot to think about in planning a service for a loved one, it’s good to know that your Funeral Director will take care of all the details involved in bringing your plans to reality. In this section we have practical information about writing an obituary and delivering a eulogy. We’ve also included tips on funeral etiquette – those essential social graces that make such an occasion bearable.
CRAFTING THE OBITUARY
An obituary serves as notification that an individual has passed away and details of the services that are to take place. But it can be far more than that. A well-crafted obituary can detail the life of the deceased, with style.
An obituary’s length may be somewhat dictated by the space available (and the related costs) in the newspaper it is to appear in. Therefore it’s best to check how much room you have before you begin your composition. An obituary typically appears in print a few days prior to the memorial service. There are some cases where this may not be possible, therefore give some consideration to the guidelines given when composing the obituary.
Writing/delivering a eulogy
While writing a eulogy and sharing it with funeral service guests is a noble gesture that is worthy of thought and effort, it can be a challenge to write. If you’re not comfortable in front of a crowd of people it can be equally as challenging to deliver. However, it is an opportunity to make a contribution to a memorial service, a contribution that your friends and family will remember for a long time. For that reason, if you are asked to write one, we suggest you consider doing so, if only for yourself.
Social EXPECTATIONS: Primer on funeral etiquette
Most of us are uncertain about what to do at a funeral. We see it all the time. In fact, Funeral Directors may be the only people who are truly comfortable in this social setting. After all, we’ve had a lot of practice.
We’ve put together this section on funeral etiquette to share everything you need to know to help you do the right thing before, during and after the service.